Books and more Books

Yea, if thou criest after knowledge, and liftest up thy voice for understanding; If thou seekest her as silver, and searchest for her as for hid treasures; Then shalt thou understand the fear of the Lord, and find the knowledge of God. For the Lord giveth wisdom: out of his mouth cometh knowledge and understanding.

Proverbs 2:3-6

In the early years, we were drowning under issues which ensued after we adopted. We sought counsel from many venues, primarily the Bible and through prayer. Over time the Lord began to lead us to what the adoptive world would call 'unconventional books'. However, through the information in these books our family began to heal and see more clearly though 'through a glass, darkly'.

Attachment issues and/or RAD are not new issues (consider: Cain, Ishmael, Esau, Absalom and Judas), but with the influx of adopted children, we are seeing a pronounced rise of publicity regarding these behaviors. The truth also remains, many families beyond number deal with these very same issues everyday with birth-children who were never abused, neglected, or abandoned. Though this brought us extreme comfort (it is not just an adoption issue), it did have us begin looking at our 'problems' from a new angle.

Thus this book list was formed as the Lord lead us to more and more information 'shedding light' on our cry for help in dealing with our children. May you be blessed by this list as well. Over time we will be 'highlighting' different books in a review, but for now here they are in list form.

Happy Reading!

Book Resources

Adoption Stories

The Family Nobody Wanted

                By Helen Doss

http://www.amazon.com/Family-Nobody-Wanted-Helen-Doss/dp/1555535038/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1346800765&sr=8-1&keywords=the+family+nobody+wanted

Twelve-Part Harmony: A Heartwarming Story of Adoption

                By Pat and Jill Williams

http://www.amazon.com/Twelve-Part-Harmony-Pat-Williams/dp/080071640X/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1346800958&sr=1-1&keywords=twelve-part+harmony

               

You’ve Got to Be Kidding!: Real-life Parenting from a Mom and Dad of Nineteen

                By Pat and Ruth Williams (sequel to Twelve-Part Harmony)

http://www.amazon.com/Youve-Got-Kidding-Real-life-parenting/dp/1578567033/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1346801017&sr=1-1&keywords=you%27ve+got+to+be+kidding+williams

Adoption as a Ministry, Adoption as a Blessing

                By Michelle Gardner

http://www.amazon.com/Adoption-As-Ministry-Blessing/dp/1579215815/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1346801049&sr=1-1&keywords=Adoption+as+a+Ministry%2C+Adoption+as+a+Blessing

After the Dream Comes True: Post-Adoption Support for Christian Families

                By Michelle Gardner

http://www.amazon.com/After-Dream-Comes-Michelle-Gardner/dp/1414102674/ref=sr_1_fkmr1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1346801250&sr=1-2-fkmr1&keywords=After+the+Dream+Comes+True%3A+Post-Adoption+Support+for+Christian+Families

Christian Adoptive Parenting

Shepherding a Child’s Heart

                By Tedd Tripp

http://www.amazon.com/Shepherding-Childs-Heart-Tedd-Tripp/dp/0966378601/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1346801328&sr=1-1&keywords=Shepherding+a+Child%C2%92s+Heart

Age of Opportunity: A Biblical Guide to Parenting Teens

                By Paul David Tripp

http://www.amazon.com/Opportunity-Biblical-guide-parenting-teens/dp/B0035Y5YJ0/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1346801383&sr=1-1&keywords=Age+of+Opportunity%3A+A+Biblical+Guide+to+Parenting+Teens

Instructing a Child’s Heart

                By Tedd & Margy Tripp

http://www.amazon.com/Instructing-Childs-Heart-Tedd-Tripp/dp/0981540007/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1346801409&sr=1-1&keywords=Instructing+a+Child%C2%92s+Heart

What the Bible says about Child Training

                By Richard Fugate

http://www.amazon.com/What-Bible-About-Child-Training/dp/1889700134/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1346801446&sr=1-1&keywords=What+the+Bible+says+about+Child+Training

Hints on Child Training

                By H. Clay Trumbull

http://www.amazon.com/Hints-Child-Training-Classic-Reprint-Trumbull/dp/B008IVYTY6/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1346801483&sr=1-1&keywords=Hints+on+Child+Training

Raising Godly Tomatoes

                By L. Elizabeth Krueger

http://www.amazon.com/Raising-Godly-Tomatoes-Elizabeth-Krueger/dp/1605303305/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1346801509&sr=1-1&keywords=Raising+Godly+Tomatoes

  

The Heart of Anger

                By Lou Priolo

http://www.amazon.com/Heart-Anger-Practical-Prevention-Children/dp/1879737280/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1346801540&sr=1-1&keywords=The+Heart+of+Anger                  

Fool-Proofing Your Life

                By Jan Silvious

http://www.amazon.com/Foolproofing-Your-Life-Effectively-Impossible/dp/0307458482/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1346801606&sr=1-1&keywords=Fool-Proofing+Your+Life 

Family Practice: God’s Prescription for a Healthy Home

                By R.C. Sproul Jr., Elizabeth Elliot, and others

http://www.amazon.com/Family-Practice-Gods-Prescription-Healthy/dp/0875524982/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1346801661&sr=1-1&keywords=Family+Practice%3A+God%C2%92s+Prescription+for+a+Healthy+Home  

Bringing the Gospel to Covenant Children

                By Joel R. Beeke

http://www.amazon.com/Bringing-Gospel-Covenant-Children-Beeke/dp/1601781172/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1346801694&sr=1-1&keywords=Bringing+the+Gospel+to+Covenant+Children

Parenting the Wild Child: Hope and Help for Desperate Parents

                By Miles McPherson

http://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Wild-Child-Miles-McPherson/dp/0764223704/ref=sr_1_fkmr1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1346801722&sr=1-1-fkmr1&keywords=Parenting+the+Wild+Child%3A+Hope+and+Help+for+Desperate+Parents

Don’t Make Me Count to Three!

                By Ginger Plowman

http://www.amazon.com/Dont-Make-Me-Count-Three/dp/0972304649/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1346801767&sr=1-1&keywords=Don%C2%92t+Make+Me+Count+to+Three%21

Equipped to Love: Idolatry-Free relationships

                By Norm Wakefield

http://www.amazon.com/Equipped-Love-Idolatry-free-Norm-Wakefield/dp/1892754002/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1346804252&sr=8-1&keywords=Equipped+to+Love%3A+Idolatry-Free+relationships

Parenting Isn’t For Cowards

                By Dr. James Dobson

http://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Isnt-Cowards-James-Dobson/dp/0849933420/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1346804440&sr=1-1&keywords=Parenting+Isn%C2%92t+For+Cowards

The Duties of Parents

                By Jacobus Koelman

http://www.amazon.com/Duties-Parents-Jacobus-Koelman/dp/1601780605/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1346804473&sr=1-2&keywords=The+Duties+of+Parents

The Duties of Parents: Raising Children with Christ

                By J.C. Ryle

http://www.amazon.com/Duties-Parents-J-C-Ryle/dp/1441433368/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1346804473&sr=1-1&keywords=The+Duties+of+Parents

Christian Living in the Home

                By Jay E. Adams

http://www.amazon.com/Christian-Living-Home-Edward-Adams/dp/0875520162/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1347055023&sr=1-1&keywords=Christian+Living+in+the+Home

The Way They Learn

                By Cynthia Ulrich Tobias

http://www.amazon.com/They-Learn-Cynthia-Ulrich-Tobias/dp/1561794147/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1346804758&sr=1-1&keywords=The+Way+They+Learn

Different Children Different Needs

                By Charles F. Boyd

http://www.amazon.com/Different-Children-Needs-Understanding-Personality/dp/1590523121/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1346804789&sr=1-1&keywords=Different+Children+Different+Needs

How Children Raise Parents

                By Dr. Dan Allender

http://www.amazon.com/How-Children-Raise-Parents-Listening/dp/140007052X/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1346804830&sr=1-1&keywords=How+Children+Raise+Parents

The Five Love Languages of Children

                By Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell

http://www.amazon.com/5-Love-Languages-Children/dp/0802403476/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1346804893&sr=1-1&keywords=The+Five+Love+Languages+of+Children

Raising a Modern-Day Knight

                By Robert Lewis

http://www.amazon.com/Raising-Modern-Day-Knight-Fathers-Authentic/dp/1589973097/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1346804924&sr=1-1&keywords=Raising+a+Modern-Day+Knight

The Exemplary Husband

                By Stuart Scott

http://www.amazon.com/Exemplary-Husband-Biblical-Perspective/dp/1885904312/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1346804953&sr=1-1&keywords=The+Exemplary+Husband

The Excellent Wife

                By Martha Peace

http://www.amazon.com/Excellent-Wife-Biblical-Perspective/dp/1885904088/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1346804989&sr=1-1&keywords=The+Excellent+Wife

Strengthening Your Marriage

                By Wayne A. Mack

http://www.amazon.com/Strengthening-Your-Marriage-Wayne-Mack/dp/0875523854/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1347055306&sr=1-1&keywords=Strengthening+Your+Marriage

Love and Respect

By Dr. Emerson Eggerichs

http://www.amazon.com/Love-Respect-Desires-Desperately-Needs/dp/1591451876/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1346805022&sr=1-1&keywords=Love+and+Respect

Family Shepherds: Calling and Equipping Men to Lead Their Homes

                By Voddie Baucham Jr.

http://www.amazon.com/Family-Shepherds-Calling-Equipping-Their/dp/1433523698/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1346805066&sr=1-1&keywords=Family+Shepherds%3A+Calling+and+Equipping+Men+to+Lead+Their+Homes

Thoughts on Family Worship

                By James Alexander

http://www.amazon.com/Thoughts-Family-Worship-James-Alexander/dp/1453749047/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1346805117&sr=1-1&keywords=Thoughts+on+Family+Worship

When You Rise Up: A Covenantal Approach to Homeschooling

                By R.C. Sproul Jr.

http://www.amazon.com/When-You-Rise-Covenantal-Homeschooling/dp/0875527116/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1346805158&sr=1-1&keywords=When+You+Rise+Up%3A+A+Covenantal+Approach+to+Homeschooling

Clinical Books

Adopting the Hurt Child: Hope for Families with Special-Needs Kids

                By Gregory Keck, Phd. And Regina Kupecky, LSW

http://www.amazon.com/Adopting-Hurt-Child-Families-Special-Needs/dp/1576830942/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1346805244&sr=1-1&keywords=Adopting+the+Hurt+Child%3A+Hope+for+Families+with+Special-Needs+Kids

Parenting the Hurt Child

                By Gregory Keck, Phd. And Regina Kupecky, LSW

http://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Hurt-Child-Adoptive-Hollywood/dp/1600062903/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1346805282&sr=1-1&keywords=Parenting+the+Hurt+Child

The Invisible Hand: Do All Things Really Work for Good

                By Dr. R.C. Sproul

http://www.amazon.com/Invisible-Hand-Things-Library-Paperback/dp/B0087AVFQS/ref=sr_1_6?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1347055203&sr=1-6&keywords=The+Invisible+Hand%3A+Do+All+Things+Really+Work+for+Good

 The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict

                By Ken Sande

http://www.amazon.com/Peacemaker-Biblical-Resolving-Personal-Conflict/dp/0801064856/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1347678360&sr=1-1&keywords=peacemaker

War on Words

                By Paul Tripp

http://www.amazon.com/War-Words-Communication-Struggles-Resources/dp/0875526047/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1347054849&sr=1-1&keywords=war+on+words  

The Biblical View of Self-Esteem, Self-love, and Self-Image

                By Jay E. Adams

http://www.amazon.com/Biblical-View-Self-Esteem-Self-Love-Self-Image/dp/0890815534/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1347054927&sr=1-1&keywords=The+Biblical+View+of+Self-Esteem%2C+Self-Love%2C+and+Self-Image

How To Help People Change: Four-Step Biblical Process

                By Jay E. Adams

http://www.amazon.com/How-Help-People-Change-Adams/dp/031051181X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1347054246&sr=8-1&keywords=How+To+Help+People+Change%3A+Four-Step+Biblical+Process

The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind

                By Daniel Siegel

http://www.amazon.com/Whole-Brain-Child-Revolutionary-Strategies-Developing/dp/0553386697/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1347054283&sr=1-1&keywords=The+Whole-Brain+Child%3A+12+Revolutionary+Strategies+to+Nurture+Your+Child%C2%92s+Developing+Mind

Inside the Brain: Revolutionary Discoveries of How the Mind Works

                By Ronald Kotulak

http://www.amazon.com/Inside-Brain-Revolutionary-Discoveries-Works/dp/0836232895/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1347054322&sr=1-1&keywords=Inside+the+Brain%3A+Revolutionary+Discoveries+of+How+the+Mind+Works

The Brain That Changes Itself

                By Norman Doidge

http://www.amazon.com/The-Brain-That-Changes-Itself/dp/0143113100/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1347054355&sr=1-1-fkmr0&keywords=IThe+Brain+That+Changes+Itself

  

The Wounded Heart: Hope for Adult Victims of Childhood S’xual Abuse

                By Dr. Dan B. Allender

 http://www.amazon.com/The-Wounded-Heart-Victims-Childhood/dp/1600063071/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1347054398&sr=1-1-fkmr0&keywords=The+Wounded+Heart%3A+Hope+for+Adult+Victims+of+Childhood+S%C2%92xual+Abuse

Ghosts from the Nursey: Tracing the Roots of Violence

                By Robin Karr-Morse and Meredith S. Wiley

http://www.amazon.com/Ghosts-Nursery-Tracing-Roots-Violence/dp/0871137348/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1347054475&sr=1-1&keywords=Ghosts+from+the+Nursey%3A+Tracing+the+Roots+of+Violence

On Combat

                By Lt. Col. Dave Grossman with Loren Christensen

http://www.amazon.com/The-Boy-Raised-Psychiatrists-Notebook-What/dp/0465056539/ref=pd_sim_b_13

The Boy Who was Raised as a Dog

                By Dr. Bruce Perry and Maia Szalavitz

http://www.amazon.com/The-Boy-Raised-Psychiatrists-Notebook-What/dp/0465056539/ref=pd_sim_b_13

Adoption Books

This Means War: Equipping Families for Adoption or Foster Care

               By Cheryl Ellicott

http://www.amazon.com/This-Means-War-Equipping-Fostercare/dp/098435994X/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&qid=1349546219&sr=8-4&keywords=Christian+adoption+books

Adopting for Good: A Guide for People Considering Adoption   

                By Jorie Kincaid

http://www.amazon.com/Adopting-Good-People-Considering-Adoption/dp/0756765315/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1346805204&sr=1-1&keywords=Adopting+for+Good%3A+A+Guide+for+People+Considering+Adoption

Adopted for Life: The Priority of Adoption for Christian Families and Churches

                By Russell D. Moore

http://www.amazon.com/Adopted-Life-Priority-Adoption-Christian/dp/1581349114/ref=sr_1_fkmr1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1346801049&sr=1-2-fkmr1&keywords=Adoption+as+a+Ministry%2C+Adoption+as+a+Blessing

  

Adoption Nation: How the Adoption Revolution is Transforming Our Families—and America

                By Adam Pertman

http://www.amazon.com/Adoption-Nation-Revolution-Transforming-Families/dp/1558327169/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1347056077&sr=1-1&keywords=Adoption+Nation%3A+How+the+Adoption+Revolution+is+Transforming+Our+Families+--+and+America

Devotionals

My Utmost For His Highest

                 By Oswald Chambers

http://www.amazon.com/My-Utmost-His-Highest-CHRISTIAN/dp/1577489144/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1349546562&sr=1-1&keywords=my+utmost+for+his+highest

Morning and Evening

                 By C.H. Spurgeon

http://www.amazon.com/Morning-Evening-Version-Devotional-Encouragement/dp/1598565699/ref=sr_1_7?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1349546666&sr=1-7&keywords=morning+and+evening+by+charles+spurgeon

Daily Strength for Daily Needs

                 By Mary W. Tileston

http://www.amazon.com/Daily-Strengths-Needs-Wilder-Tileston/dp/147007480X/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1349546810&sr=1-1&keywords=daily+strength+for+daily+needs+by+mary+tileston

2012, Robert and Katherine Sanford, Adoption Heart Ministries